Desertion is also a challenge for Latin America.
John Valentine ii What with all of the wonderful reasons why marrying a foreigner is fantastic fun see our post 10 Reasons Why You Should Marry a Foreignerthere are some definite downsides as well.
Below are a few reasons for why I find international marriage difficult. Far away from family. One of us is always living far, far, far away from family and friends. There will never be a time when we are close to his family as well as mine.
Loss of holiday traditions. My husband especially feels this when Christmastime rolls around: There is nothing even close to a Weihnachtsmarkt here in Seattle and where is the smell of roasting nuts filling the air?
When I lived in Germany, Thanksgiving came and went without even the sighting of a turkey, let alone family getting together to celebrate.
Things just feel a little less warm and comforting when our holiday traditions disappear. However, there are times when our cultural differences rub one another the wrong way. What if we divorce? Being that one can never know where life will lead us, if my husband and I were to divorce God forbidI have no idea how difficult things could get.
What if he wanted to move back to Germany?
Where would the kids live? Would they live with me or him or travel between us both?
All in all, international couples who divorce tend to have more difficult decisions to make when compared to those who live in the same country. My husband is completely fluent in English yet he can still feel out of place when he hangs out with a bunch of Americans using slang and subtle cultural references.
It takes a lot of work. Marriage in general can be a lot of work.
However, international marriages take just that little bit more. My husband had to listen to my complaints for a long time about how different life was in Germany. Then I had to listen to the same from him when we moved to the States.
Aside from getting used to living with one another, we had overarching cultural differences to deal with which could really wear us down and test our marriage. Even today we hit cultural nuances that test our boundaries.
Never completely at home. Not only do others treat him as a foreigner, no matter how hard he tries, this country will just never hold the same degree of comfort as his country of origin.
The knowledge of this weighs heavy on me from time to time. The end of true vacations. Ever since my husband and I have been together vacations have taken on a whole new meaning: Since we live relatively far from my American family, we alternate vacation years so that we can visit his family one year and mine the next.
Airplane flights are expensive. While others are investing their extra dollars in college or retirement accounts, we are saving up for our next airline tickets to Germany! Our choice to invest it in the present to visit family in Germany is important to us but it does hurt at times. At least one set of grandparents is always far away.Key Advantages and Disadvantages of Being Bilingual.
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Nathan Of course anyone who identifies humans by color is racist. What is that about that seems so confusing???
People of color are “used” to being called all sorts of things. ABSTRACT. Over the past few decades, significant economic and political changes have taken place around the world.
These changes also have put a significant mark on language teaching and learning practices across the globe. There are many advantages to being bicultural, two of which are greater creativity and professional success as shown in a recent study. In his article Advantages of Being Bicultural Prof François Grosjean lists the benefits as “having a greater number of social networks, being aware of cultural differences, taking part in the life of two or more cultures, being an intermediary between cultures” as well .